“We’ll take the baby’s first month for ourselves,” explains the pregnant star in the new issue of Fit Pregnancy and Baby. “After the baby arrives, we’re doing one month of silence. Just the three of us, no visitors, and we’re turning off our phones too, so there’s no expectation for us to communicate.”
The 29-year-old Twilight star says that she doesn’t want to feel pressured to share daily health updates and photos of her newborn. She adds, “You don’t get those first 30 days back, and we want to be fully present.”
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In the wide-ranging interview, Reed – who announced that she was pregnant in May – further opens up about how she first discovered she was expecting, explaining that she “took the pregnancy test before dawn.”
“I didn’t have my glasses or contacts and I can’t see without them,” she says. “I was squinting, thinking, ‘Are there any more lines?’ I yelled to Ian, ‘Get up!’ He ran into the bathroom, read the test, and we were so excited.”
The happy couple – who wed in April 2015 – then watched the sunrise together, “just thinking, ‘Wow, we’re going to have a baby.’ ”
It was “months” before Somerhalder, 38, and Reed decided to share their baby joy with friends and family. In fact, the news became “this really cool thing, a secret with just each other.”
Also under wraps? The baby’s sex, which the couple is waiting to find out. Says the Sleepy Hollow alum of the decision, “It’s the greatest and only true surprise of your life.”
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When it comes to Reed’s delivery, however, she hopes for no surprises — and plans to have her doctor, doula and massage chiropractor by her side, “keeping me comfortable and informed.” Though she originally hoped for a home birth with a midwife, she is now “looking at all options.”
“My doctor says, ‘Midwives always think nothing will go wrong. Doctors always think something will. Let’s find a place in the middle,’ ” explains the actress.
Somerhalder isn’t necessarily in a hurry for his wife’s pregnancy to end, though. As Reed explains, “Ian jokes that he wants to keep me pregnant forever,” adding, “Pregnant, I’m a better version of myself. I’m really chill and relaxed, which I think is the greatest blessing.”
Reed, too, has grown to embrace her changing shape, admitting, “Being pregnant has given me this new and powerful appreciation for my body.”
“Why do I suddenly have this layer of fat? Oh, it’s because my body needs to create breast milk,” she says. “Why am I hungry and thirsty? Because my body is creating amniotic fluid. I want to write my pregnant body love letters, it’s so f— cool!”